Phoney Relationships

A lot of relationships these days are “Facebook” instead of “face-to-face”.

So are we more willing to get followers on our cell phones, instead of friends face-to-face? Therefore the term “Phoney Relationships”

John 7:24 “Stop judging according to appearance, _but_ be judging the righteous judgment.”

Judging – Greek κρίνω (krinō) Properly to distinguish, that is, decide (mentally or judicially); by implication to try, condemn, punish: – avenge, conclude, condemn, damn, decree, determine, esteem, judge, go to (sue at the) law, ordain, call in question, sentence to, think.

Appearance – Greek ὄψις (opsis) ;properly sight (the act), that is, (by implication) the visage, an external show: – appearance, countenance, face.

Righteous – Greek δίκαιος (dikaios) From δίκη (dikē); equitable (in character or act); by implication innocent, holy (absolutely or relatively): – just, meet, right (-eous).

Greek δίκη (dikē) ; right (as self-evident), that is, justice (the principle, a decision, or its execution): – judgment, punish, vengeance.

In the meaning of the Greek words:
Stop distinguishing or deciding; by sight or an external show, but be distinguishing or deciding with equitable (considering innocent, holy) or right (as self-evident) judgement.

So if we judge something as pleasing to our own eyes rather than judging it in a fair and impartial way; we are treating it in an unholy fashion? Do we treat ourselves in an unholy fashion?

New York Post-

1 in 5 millennials are lonely and have ‘no friends’: survey
By Hannah Frishberg August 2, 2019 | 5:19pm
All the followers, none of the friends.
Social media-savvy millennials make up the loneliest generation in America, according to a new survey by market research firm YouGov.
The poll of 1,254 adults aged 18 and older found that 27 percent of millennials have no close friends, 25 percent have no “acquaintances” and 22 percent — or 1 in 5 — have no buddies at all. This compares with only 9 percent of Baby Boomers and 15 percent of Gen Xers who reported having zero chums.
A third of the 20- and 30-somethings also reported feeling lonely often or always, compared with 20 percent of Gen Xers and 15 percent of boomers. (Sext-happy Gen Z was not included in the survey results, nor was the older Silent Generation.)
On the bright side, close to half — 49 percent — of millennials said they had one to four “close friends” and 70 percent said they had at least one “best friend.” Although, based on the other stats, that best friend is possibly their only friend.

-New York Post

CompuKol Communications LLC-

Defining Your Social Media Avatar
Avatar is defined as manifestation, appearance, or incarnation. In terms of social media in today’s world, your Avatar is your identity. You choose to make your Avatar whatever you want it to be. It is what you project to others.
There are many people who have a different image online than in person. They allow other members of their social media communities to see them as an enhanced version of themselves. Of course, there is nothing wrong with putting your best foot forward and showing other people the best of what and who you are. We all try to do that. Sometimes people are no keenly aware that what they say and how they portray themselves online and in person does not necessarily have to be the same thing.

-CompuKol Communications LLC

To find out about the “Real” person ignore the Avatar and ask them about their “Browser” histories.

I want to know the “Real” you; not the enhanced version of you!

“To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man” says Polonius in Hamlet. – William Shakespeare

“To thine own self be true”. We hear this quote and see it emblazoned on many items for sale today, but do we stop to really reflect on what it means?

If you are really true to yourself will you make a “Phoney” Social Media Avatar of yourself?


scha·den·freu·de /ˈSHädənˌfroidə/ noun: Schadenfreude; noun: schadenfreude
pleasure derived by someone from another person’s misfortune.
Origin : German Schadenfreude, from Schaden ‘harm’ + Freude ‘joy’.

Schadenfreude From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia –

Schadenfreude ; lit. ‘harm-joy’) is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.
Schadenfreude is a complex emotion, where rather than feeling sympathy towards someone’s misfortune, schadenfreude evokes joyful feelings that take pleasure from watching someone fail. This emotion is displayed more in children than adults; however, adults also experience schadenfreude, though generally concealed.

– Schadenfreude From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Google search –

Schadenfreude is borrowed from German; it is a compound of Schaden, “damage, harm”, and Freude, “joy”. The German word was first mentioned in English texts in 1852 and 1867, and first used in English running text in 1895. In German, it was first attested in the 1740s.
She noted Schadenfreude as an example of such a word, the pleasure that one derives from another person’s misfortune, which is from German Schaden, harm, and Freude, joy. She said an English equivalent does exist — epicaricacy. … Schadenfreude I know it is called. Or epicaricacy, as the English will have it.
epicaricacy Noun
(rare) Rejoicing at or derivation of pleasure from the misfortunes of others.
Usage notes : The word is mentioned in some early dictionaries, but there is little or no evidence of actual usage until it was picked up by various “interesting word” websites around the turn of the twenty-first century.
Origin From Ancient Greek ἐπί (epí, “upon”) + χαρά (khará, “joy”) + κακός (kakós, “evil”).

The Japanese have a saying: “The misfortune of others tastes like honey.” The French speak of joie maligne, a diabolical delight in other people’s suffering. In Danish it is skadefryd; in Hebrew, simcha la-ed; in Mandarin, xìng-zāi-lè-huò; in Russian, zloradstvo; and for the Melanesians who live on the remote Nissan Atoll in Papua New Guinea, it is banbanam. Two millennia ago, the Romans spoke of malevolentia. Earlier still, the Greeks described epichairekakia (literally epi, over, chairo, rejoice, kakia, disgrace). A study in Würzburg in Germany carried out in 2015 found that football fans smiled more quickly and broadly when their rival team missed a penalty, than when their own team scored.
“To see others suffer does one good,” wrote the philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche. “This is a hard saying, but a mighty, human, all-too-human principle.”

– Google search

Schadenfreude – a very good word for a very bad state of consciousness.

The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer called it “an infallible sign of a thoroughly bad heart and profound moral worthlessness.”

RC Trench, the archbishop of Dublin, mentioned it in “On the Study of Words”. For Trench, the mere existence of the word was unholy and fearful, a “mournful record of the strange wickednesses which the genius of man has invented”.

In the 1890s, animal-rights campaigner Frances Power Cobbe wrote a manifesto entitled Schadenfreude, identifying the emotion with the bloodlust of boys torturing stray cats for fun.

Do you notice any Schadenfreude around you? Especially examine some of the world’s most influential people – look for “an infallible sign of a thoroughly bad heart and profound moral worthlessness.”
Do you experience any Schadenfreude inside you? Reflect on your intentions toward the world and people around you.

Schadenfreude has been called “empathy’s shadow”, casting the two as antithetical.

This is why Buddha emphasized compassion in his teachings. Compassion is feeling with someone; Schadenfreude is feeling against someone, even though the person appears to be enjoying the feeling. See how devious the human mind can be.

Psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen has pointed out that psychopaths are not only detached from other people’s suffering but even enjoy it: “The Germans have a word for this,” writes Baron-Cohen.

So, psychopaths think about other people’s suffering with the purpose of getting enjoyment from it. How close are each of us to becoming psychopaths?

So, is your “Schadenfreude” consciousness stronger or your “empathy” consciousness stronger?

All emotions are “cognitive” – in other words, not simply reactions , but complex cognitive processes requiring us to evaluate our relationship with the universe around us and respond accordingly.

Dostoyevsky knew that schadenfreude and sympathy are not either/or responses, but can both be experienced in the same moment. In Crime and Punishment, Marmeladov is brought, bloodied and unconscious, into the St Petersburg tenement where he lives following an accident, all the residents crowd round. They experience, wrote Dostoyevsky, “that strange sense of inner satisfaction that always manifests itself, even among the victim’s nearest and dearest, when someone is afflicted by a sudden catastrophe; a sensation that not a single one of us is proof against, however sincere our feelings of pity and sympathy”.

Reflect on this – “that strange sense of inner satisfaction that always manifests itself, even among the victim’s nearest and dearest, when someone is afflicted by a sudden catastrophe; a sensation that not a single one of us is proof against, however sincere our feelings of pity and sympathy”.