Agree with your adversary quickly

Agree with your adversary quickly

 

Mat 5:25-26 Agree with your adversary quickly, while you are in the way with him; that the opponent not deliver you to the judge, and the judge deliver you to the officer, and you be thrown into prison. Truly I say to you, You shall by no means come out from there until you have paid the last kodrantes.  [i.e. a small, Roman copper coin worth about 1/500th of an ounce or 0.05 grams of silver]

Agree   ἴσθι  isthi  is’-thee  agree, be, give thyself wholly to.

εὐνόεω  eunoeō  yoo-no-eh’-o  to be well minded, that is, reconcile: – agree. [resolve, settle]

Luk 6:37  “And stop judging, and by no means shall you* be judged. Stop condemning, and by no means shall you* be condemned. Be forgiving [to free fully, literally relieve, release, dismiss], and you* will be forgiven [freed fully, literally relieved, released, dismissed].

So much of Jesus’ teachings are about WHAT HAPPENS INSIDE US; the kingdom of heaven is within. Could it be that the kingdom of hell is within also?

The following is a description of the greatest adversaries we will ever face.

Excerpts from: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Attention is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on that which we want to perceive…

The adults around us hooked our attention and put information into our minds through repetition. That is the way we learned everything we know…

We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong. It was all there already — all that knowledge, all those rules and concepts about how to behave in the world…

When you were in school…

When you went to church…

It is the same dynamic with Mom and Dad, brothers and sisters…

They were all trying to hook your attention. We also learn to hook the attention of other humans, and we develop a need for attention which can become very competitive…

Every letter, every word in each language is an agreement...

Once we understand the code, our attention is hooked and the energy is transferred from one person to another…

We never had the opportunity to choose what to believe or what not to believe. We never chose even the smallest of these agreements. We didn’t even choose our own name…

The only way to store information is by agreement

As soon as we agree, we believe it, and this is called faith. To have faith is to believe unconditionally…

Children believe everything adults say…

We didn’t choose these beliefs, and we may have rebelled against them, but we were not strong enough to win the rebellion…

The result is surrender to the beliefs with our agreement

In human domestication, the information from the outside dream is conveyed to the inside dream, creating our whole Belief System

And we also learn to judge: We judge ourselves, judge other people, and judge the neighbors…

We train our children whom we love so much the same way that we train any domesticated animal: with a system of punishment and reward

Soon we became afraid of being punished and also afraid of not receiving the reward

With that FEAR of being punished and that FEAR of not getting the reward, we start pretending to be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else

Eventually we become someone that we are not. We become a copy of Mamma’s beliefs, Daddy’s beliefs, society’s beliefs, and religion’s beliefs…

The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our life we no longer need anyone to domesticate us. We don’t need Mom or Dad, the school or the church to domesticate us. We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator…

We are an auto-domesticated animal. We can now domesticate ourselves according to the same Belief System we were given, and using the same system of punishment and reward

The Belief System is like a Book of Law that rules our mind. Without question, whatever is in that Book of Law, is our truth…

There is something in our minds that judges everybody and everything, including the weather, the dog, the cat — everything. The Inner Judge uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don’t do, everything we think and don’t think, and everything we feel and don’t feel…

Every time we do something that goes against the Book of Law, the Judge says we are guilty, we need to be punished, and we should be ashamed

There is another part of us that receives the judgments, and this part is called the Victim. The Victim carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame

And this is all based on a Belief System that we never chose to believe. These beliefs are so strong, that even years later when we are exposed to new concepts and try to make our own decisions, we find that these beliefs still control our lives.

Whatever goes against the Book of Law will make you feel a funny sensation in your solar plexus, and it’s called FEAR

Because everything that is in the Book of Law has to be true, anything that challenges what you believe is going to make you feel unsafe. Even if the Book of Law is wrong, it makes you feel safe…

That is why we need a great deal of courage to challenge our Own Beliefs. Because even if we know we didn’t choose all these beliefs, it is also true that we agreed to all of them…

All these laws exist in our mind, we believe them, and the Judge inside us bases everything on these rules. The Judge decrees, and the Victim suffers the guilt and punishment

True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake…

How many times do we pay for one mistake?  The answer is thousands of times…

But every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again…

Is this fair ?

But nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, and it is the Inner Judge, the Victim, and the Belief System that makes us do this…

If we can see it is our agreements which rule our life, and we don’t like the dream of our life, we need to change the agreements. When we are finally ready to change our agreements, there are four very powerful agreements that will help us break those agreements that come from FEAR and deplete our energy.

THE FIRST AGREEMENT   Be Impeccable With Your Word

THE SECOND AGREEMENT   Don’t Take Anything Personally

THE THIRD AGREEMENT   Don’t Make Assumptions

THE FOURTH AGREEMENT   Always Do Your Best

End excerpts from: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

 

Let me repeat this verse again…

Luk 6:37  “And stop judging, and by no means shall you* be judged. Stop condemning, and by no means shall you* be condemned. Be forgiving [to free fully, literally relieve, release, dismiss], and you* will be forgiven [freed fully, literally relieved, released, dismissed].

We need to be forgiving [to free fully, literally relieve, release, dismiss] the Inner Judge, the Victim, and the Belief System.

It is right and proper to have beliefs that differ from others…

If we agreed on everything then only one of us would be necessary. It is the differences between us that make life so interesting.  written by Ed And Deb Shapiro February 21, 2013