These are procedures that I use to BARTER with the ego, when
the ego presents me with the turmoil of negative feelings and
Breathing – deep breathing in & out is the quickest way to bring
the body back to balance. Anger (frustration) is a strong exhalation.
Sorrow is a strong inhalation. Don’t forget to fill your belly with air!
Attention to posture – sitting or moving with a sense of focused
elegance or grace is a wonderful way; to come back to the body,
to come back to our senses.
Relaxation – whatever activity or lack of activity that causes you
to relax is a good bargaining chip to reduce psycho-babble in life.
Temporary change of environment – this can be done physically
or mentally. There is nothing like a change of scenery to bring about
a change in mind. Think about those places that produce the most
positive changes in your attitude. (If you have a chronic problem
with an environment, think about a permanent change.)
External distraction – a good book, good music, exercise, or any
other diversion that gives us a “good” feeling inside will help to
dissipate the energy of negative emotions.
Regenerating positive action – do something that makes a positive
change to the world around you. Return “good” for “evil”. Give yourself
to “serve” others. Make “peace” with everyone around you. This is
especially effective when observing another’s behavior causes
negative emotions and feelings to rise up inside of you.
Agree (settle) with your adversary quickly.