ENDINGS are the most important things
“In your own life, you should take particular care with endings, for their color will forever tinge your memory of the entire relationship and your willingness to reenter it.” Authentic Happiness by Martin E. Seligman, Ph.D.
A lot of us spend much of our lives just drifting along; not consciously living. We only engage our Conscious Minds deliberately when we meet doubts, problems, or troubles.
The Conscious Mind is where we make our choices, develop our beliefs, and begin our imagination (visualization) by choosing to set our Subconscious Mind free to dream.
We choose what we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell with our Conscious Mind, but we perceive what we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell with our Subconscious Mind.
What we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell with our Conscious Mind are only happenings; they become experiences to the Subconscious Mind when our Conscious Mind assigns a value (objective or subjective) to them. It is at the ENDING of the experience with the assigning of a value that the experience is imbued with power.
You are so wonderfully made that if you are not happy with an experience you can just with your imagination alone change the ENDING. That’s right just by envisioning an experience it is just as valid as an experience made with your five senses. Just ask the Buddha! The most important tool you have for adding value to an experience is your paradigm (your way of viewing reality).
One purpose in life is to view things rightly, not to set things right. You will experience things rightly if you view things rightly. This viewing is a spiritual/imagination process.
Just think of the experiences that you could have if you had a paradigm that concentrated on POSITIVE ENDINGS!
These experiences become filters to our perception. Just because modern man spends most of his time drifting in the Conscious Mind doesn’t mean that the Subconscious Mind isn’t active. On the contrary, it is always looking for input. If we do not make a deliberate conscious choice to control the input, it will go into automatic mode and accept input from outside as valid.
We free a past experience (especially a guilty one) by forgiving it and habituating the Subconscious Mind to receive a NEW ENDING to the experience in place of the OLD ENDING.
You keep your future free by not letting your present-self put your future-self into binding, limiting, or negative restrictions. Do not make choices in the present moment for how you will be in the future, but leave your future choice making free. I am not talking about the give and take of our normal lives, but the internalizing of binding, limiting, or negative restrictions. Statements such as “I am not good at math” “I am clumsy”, etc. Especially beware of using the term “I AM” to habitually place binding, limiting, or negative restrictions on the way you experience yourself in the Subconscious Mind. Here again if you are not happy with the way you have defined yourself; train the Subconscious Mind to receive a NEW ENDING to the way you experience yourself in place of the OLD ENDING.
Your paradigm is the operating system of your mind; your operating system determines how your internal programs; display, run, store data, and handle crashes.
I hope you are starting to see the possibilities of installing a new operating system of your mind.
I have given you many ideas in various essays on this blog on features that you can program into the operating system of your mind.
I never told you it would be easy!