Your life is not a series of If___Then___ conditional statements.
If I get a better job – Then I will be happy.
If I get a bigger house – Then I will be happy.
If I find the perfect mate – Then I will be complete.
If I get into good physical shape – Then I will be content with my body.
We expect to find the truth about ourselves; outside of ourselves.
We expect to find happiness; outside of ourselves.
You need to discover unconditional happiness. The state of “I AM ENOUGH!”
You do not need to meet conditions to be happy, complete, or content.
“If you are unable to find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?” ― Dōgen
“No matter how bad a state of mind you may get into, if you keep strong and hold out, eventually the floating clouds must vanish and the withering wind must cease.” ― Dōgen
“What you think in your own mind to be good, or what people of the world think is good, is not necessarily good.” ― Dōgen
“Only those who have the great capacity of genuine trust can enter this realm [the realm of the buddhas]. Those who have no trust are unable to accept it, however much they hear it.” ― Dōgen, Beyond Thinking: A Guide to Zen Meditation
Go to the link and read the whole article:
An excerpt from the website-
- It disrupts our sense of identity.
- It challenges our defenses.
- It causes us anxiety.
- It stirs up guilt.
- It forces us to face pain.
How to Pursue Your Own Happiness
It’s a strange twist that the very thing that we most want, or that will be best for us, is often what we are most resistant to. No one else can tell us what will make us happy or what’s most important to us. This is something we all have to determine for ourselves, and once we do, it’s our job to fight for it.
There are 5 good ways to pursue the happiness you desire:
- Don’t go it alone. Share your journey, and tell someone else your goals, so that you feel accountable.
- Recognize a pattern to your critical inner voices and self-destructive behavior. This will help you to recognize when your inner critic is triggered so you can act against its hurtful directives.
- Find active ways to differentiate from negative influences in your past. Try to choose the qualities you want to emulate and reject those you don’t.
- Don’t take the mentality of a victim. Nothing, not even your past, can control you if you’re an independent adult, making your own choices.
- Recognize that you’re powerful, capable, and that setbacks won’t unravel you.