LACK of Self

LACK of Self

We often hear that we need to sublimate the ego or self, but just what does that mean?

Take note of my acronym LACK!

There are two kingdoms within. The ephemeral flesh kingdom of I (self) and the eternal spirit kingdom of WE.

Here are two mind pictures:

The kingdom of I is like a lake or pond with a stiff breeze blowing and full of waves. We cannot see the reflection of the Cosmos on the surface while our self-centered thoughts clamor for our attention.

The kingdom of WE is like the same lake or pond at a still, calm moment. We have set our self-centered thoughts aside and we can now see the reflection of the Cosmos on the surface and commune with it.

The kingdom of WE is where Buddha Nature and the state of flow occur. It is where we experience awe and feel a part of something larger than ourselves. It is also called the inner child where our energy for life comes from.

To sublimate the ego or self we simply need to give from the eternal spirit kingdom of WE. These are things that WE do for others!

The gifts that WE can give are: Love Acceptance Compassion Kindness


Love – the feeling – is a fruit of love, the verb. Author: Stephen Covey Source: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Take notice I am talking about love as an action, not simply as a feeling.


Stress occurs when the conscious mind resists what is (exists).

We need the awareness to see things as they really are; as they relate to all other things.


Definition:  sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it

Origin and Etymology of com: Middle English, from Anglo-French, from Latin, with, together, thoroughly

Origin and Etymology of compassion: Middle English, from Anglo-French or Late Latin; Anglo-French, from Late Latin compassion-, compassio, from compati to sympathize, from Latin com- + pati to bear, suffer — more at patient

Origin and Etymology of patient: Middle English pacient, from Anglo-French, from Latin patient-, patiens, from present participle of pati to suffer; perhaps akin to Greek pēma suffering

My definition: to feel with, to suffer with, or to be thoroughly patient with.


Definition: the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.

Kindness…is finding compassion and understanding for where others are at, while keeping your own boundaries and respecting your own needs.

…is accepting where other people are; not trying to change them. This might mean a bad relationship is over – because we can’t change other people.

…is helping someone; not to have some sort of debt owed, not to try and make ourselves look good, but genuine compassion for a fellow human-being.

…is giving without expectation of receiving; … an anonymous donation; … a surprise email with no expectation of a reply.

…is respecting other people’s boundaries. It trusts that person to know what’s best for them