Success

Success

 

Success is not getting there, but earning the right of consciousness to be there

 

Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

Quotes by Stephen Covey

Comments mine

 

  1. Be Proactive

“Taking initiative does not mean being pushy, obnoxious, or aggressive. It does mean recognizing our responsibility to make things happen.”

Responsibility – the ability to make a response.

Liberty  –  The right and power to act, believe, or express oneself in a manner of one’s own choosing. (physical level)

Freedom  –  The condition of being free of restraints. The capacity to exercise choice, belief, and faith; free will. (spiritual level)

 

  1. Begin With the End in Mind

“(This habit)…is based on imagination– the ability to envision, to see the potential, to create with our minds what we cannot at present see with our eyes…”

 

visualize

v. tr. To form a mental image of; envisage: tried to visualize the scene as it was described. To make visible.

intr. To form a mental image.

 

envisage

tr.v. To conceive an image or a picture of, especially as a future possibility: envisaged a world at peace. To consider or regard in a certain way.

 

envision

tr.v.  To picture in the mind; imagine.

 

  1. Put First Things First

“Create a clear, mutual understanding of what needs to be accomplished, focusing on what, not how; results not methods. Spend time. Be patient. Visualize the desired result.”

Mat 7:7  “Be asking, and it will be given to you*; be seeking, and you* will find; be knocking, and it will be opened to you*.

Mar 11:24  For this reason I say to you*, all [things], as many as while praying you* shall be asking [for], be believing [or, be having faith] that you* are receiving, and it will be [granted] to you*.

  1. Think Win-Win

“Win-Win is a frame of mind that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-Win means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying.”

The universe wants a win for you, but it wants a win for everyone else too…

Mat 5:43-45  “You* heard that it was said, ‘You will love your neighbor,’ and you will hate your enemy, [Lev. 19:18]  but _I_ say to you*, be loving your* enemies; be blessing the ones cursing you*; be doing good to the ones hating you*, and be praying on behalf of the ones mistreating you* and persecuting you*,  in order that you* shall become [or, prove to be] sons [and daughters] of your Father, the [One] in {the} heavens, because He causes His sun to rise on evil [ones] and good [ones], and He sends rain on righteous [ones] and unrighteous [ones].

 

  1. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

“‘Seek First to Understand’ involves a very deep shift in paradigm. We typically seek first to be understood. Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They’re either speaking or preparing to speak. They’re filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their autobiography into other people’s lives.”

 

empathy

n.   Identification with and understanding of another’s situation, feelings, and motives.

 

sympathy

n.  A relationship or an affinity between people or things in which whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other

Physiology A relation between parts or organs by which a disease or disorder in one induces an effect in the other.

 

compassion

n.  Deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it.

 

objective

adj.  Of or having to do with a material object. Having actual existence or reality.

Something that actually exists.

 

subjective

adj.  Proceeding from or taking place in a person’s mind rather than the external world: a subjective decision. Particular to a given person; personal: subjective experience.

Psychology. Existing only within the experiencer’s mind; illusory.

Medicine. Of, relating to, or designating a symptom or condition perceived by the patient and not by the examiner.

 

Our purpose is not to set things right, but to see them rightly. Stress occurs when the conscious mind resists what is (exists). We should not make subjective evaluations about events that unfold around us, but see the cosmic objective (interconnectedness) in all things around us.

 

  1. Synergize

“Synergy works; it’s a correct principle. It is the crowning achievement of all the previous habits. It is effectiveness in an interdependent reality– it is teamwork, team building, the development of unity and creativity with other human beings.”

synergy

n.  The interaction of two or more agents or forces so that their combined effect is greater than the sum of their individual effects.

Cooperative interaction among groups, especially among the acquired subsidiaries or merged parts of a corporation, that creates an enhanced combined effect.

 

entropy

n. A measure of the disorder or randomness in a closed system.

A measure of the loss of information in a transmitted message.

The tendency for all matter and energy in the universe to evolve toward a state of inert uniformity.

Inevitable and steady deterioration of a system or society.

 

  1. Sharpening the Saw

“This is the habit of renewal…It circles and embodies all the other habits. It is the habit of continuous improvement…that lifts you to new levels of understanding and living each of the habits.”

 

 

The following is the prayer of a person sharpening the saw:

 

The Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,

Where there is hatred, let me sow love;

…where there is injury, pardon;

…where there is doubt, faith;

…where there is despair, hope;

…where there is darkness, light;

…where there is sadness, joy;

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek

…to be consoled as to console;

…to be understood as to understand;

…to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;

…it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;

…and it is in dying to self that we are born to eternal life.