The top five regrets of the dying.
Number one: I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
Number two: I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Number three: I wish I had let myself be happier.
Number four: I wish I’d had the courage to express my true self.
And number five: I wish I’d lived a life true to my dreams, instead of what others expected of me.
Here are the top five things that people with post-traumatic growth say “My priorities have changed”:
“I’m not afraid to do what makes me happy.”
“I feel closer to my friends and family.”
“I understand myself better. I know who I really am now.”
“I have a new sense of meaning and purpose in my life.”
“I’m better able to focus on my goals and dreams.”
Now, does this sound familiar? It should, because the top five traits of post-traumatic growth are essentially the direct opposite of the top five regrets of the dying. Now this is interesting, right? It seems that somehow, a traumatic event can unlock our ability to lead a life with fewer regrets.
But how does it work? How do you get from trauma to growth? Or better yet, is there a way to get all the benefits of post-traumatic growth without the trauma, without having to hit your head in the first place? That would be good, right?
Four kinds of resilience:
1. Physical resilience.
2. Mental resilience.
3. Emotional resilience.
4 . Social resilience.
‘Live long and prosper’ is an abbreviated version of a traditional Jewish religious blessing. It came to a wider public in the Star Trek TV series. It was used there by the character Mr. Spock (actor Leonard Nimoy, himself Jewish) as the greeting of the Vulcan people.
Live long and prosper.